I’m watching people use AI to build things nobody asked for. Cool scheduling app for your lights, Chad.
New tools. New apps. New Websites. Side projects that exist because they could exist. The gap between “I had an idea” and “I shipped it” has collapsed overnight — and we filled the recovered time with more shipping, more busy work, more sycophantic support of wild dreams of Silicon Valley riches. Thanks AI.
Meanwhile, we have science is sitting here, unbothered, telling us something completely different about what our bodies actually need. Vibes, yes! Other kinds of vibes…wink wink (or, buzz buzz).
An orgasm temporarily deactivates the lateral orbitofrontal cortex (per what I’ve read) — the brain region responsible for self-monitoring and behavioral control. This deactivation is the mechanism by which intimate play and orgasm produces its characteristic quality of ego dissolution. The brain’s surveillance system goes offline. That voice running cost-benefit analyses on your next feature? Neurologically offline. The gremlins are silenced for a bit! Wonderful. Mindlabneuroscience
And the oxytocin released isn’t just a mood lift. Oxytocin counteracts the effects of cortisol, the stress hormone — less stress means increased immunity and faster recovery. That’s from the peer-reviewed Indian Journal of Endocrinology and Metabolism, published through NIH. Concentrations of oxytocin, prolactin, and other bonding neurotransmitters increase during orgasm in both the cerebrospinal fluid and the bloodstream. This is your body running its own maintenance protocol — one we keep skipping. nihPubMed Central
Intimate touching — caressing, massage, breast stimulation — all stimulate an increase in oxytocin. Studies show oxytocin increases during sexual arousal itself, not only at orgasm. The neurochemical response begins well before any climax. PubMed Central
Intimate touching and orgasms are not a wellness trend. Our bodies are well programmed for stress reduction and refocusing if we allow it to work…or help it along a bit.
When you know and love yourself on deeply emotional and physical levels, you gain confidence and let yourself grow through self-awareness. Self-pleasure is self-knowledge. It’s presence. It’s the opposite of building into a void. Women’s Health Network
With AI, we were handed time back and we gave it away immediately. To output. To visibility. To the cult of shipping. To the perfectionist gremlins inside of pushing for productivity, hustle, and scale. Again, fuck the gremlins especially those being fed by AI.
I get it — building things feel like forward motion. I do it too, more often than I would like to admit. But a lot of it is just noise dressed up as momentum. And our nervous systems knows the difference even when your Bullet Journaled task list and calendar does not.
Come home to your body first. Build from there.
And if you’ve got a trusted, consenting person who matches that energy? The more connected you are to your own pleasure, the more likely you are to experience it with others. SheKnows
That’s the magic. Not the app. Not the launch. Not the vibe coding session at midnight. Do other vibing things at midnight…preferably earlier, because you need your sleep.
The real vibe always started with us with ourselves, us with trusted others.
For those that read this far – good on you!! Did you know, May is International Masturbation Month? Nope, I am not making this up. Enjoy!
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- Human Contribution: 78%
- AI Contribution: 22%
- Collaboration Method: Human-originated concept, title, and argument direction; voice-matching via provided writing sample; AI-assisted research retrieval and prose drafting within human-defined constraints
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- Human Roles: Originated title and core argument, defined the self-pleasure-as-self-care angle, rejected sanitized drafts, provided voice reference sample, directed all editorial pivots, made final content decisions
- AI Roles: Web research and citation retrieval, structural drafting, voice adaptation based on provided sample
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